publicly support the arguments put forward by those in the Gay
and Lesbian community wishing to make a life long commitment to
Our laws in Australia currently forbid
Same Sex Marriages, therefore we as Authorised Marriage and Civil
Celebrants can only go so far. However for those in the Gay and
Lesbian community who desire to make a commitment to each other,
there are a number of resources available to assist.
help with a "Partnership" or "Commitment"
ceremony, it can be similar to a formal wedding but without the
legalities of declaring a couple "married", instead you
can have vows of fidelity, readings, family involvement, poetry
and special effects such as a Sand or Rose ceremony. Finally you
will be declared "Partners in Life Together", and a
suitable printed Certificate will be presented to you.
distinct from "Marriages", a "Civil Union" is
now law in Great Britain
in several other overseas countries, with similar rights as a
married couple. However, the problem still remains - IF you have
a formal "Same Sex Civil Union" ceremony in those
overseas countries, then that would NOT be recognised here as a
"marriage" in Australia.
As a Civil Celebrant,
we come across many and varied requests for personalised
services, in this respect I have put together some samples of a
Same Sex Partnership or Commitment Ceremony, which are meaningful
and identify you and your partner as one within your family and
These samples are from actual ceremonies performed by
other Civil Celebrants. Click on these links for further
1- Click Here:
document is copyright by the author Rona
Goold, ACCN Director
Permission to publish it here on this
web site has been granted by Rona Goold.
For information about
Union Section of
(ACCN), please click here.
and Caroline after the "Cutting of the Cake".
were presented with a "Celebration
Commitment Ceremony was held at
a wedding reception centre in the Southern Highlands NSW,
with the couple's family and friends in attendance. The Celebrant
ACCN Director (see above links).
2 - Click Here
for all material in this section is owned by Russell
- a PROUD Same Sex partnership. I gratefully thank Russell
for allowing their heart rendering and beautiful Gay ceremonial
to be included here.
This section also contains a powerful
and important message about Gay
relations and Youth Suicides.
of it is printed here.
from time immemorial, the only choice young people have is
whether to live the lifestyle they have been born with, or to
live a life of denial and double standards, hiding their true
In today’s world they are facing less pressure
from their own peer group, but homophobia still exists in some
family circles, and in some areas of the community.
us say to families, and to society in general, that if they
reject the sexuality and emotional issues of this generation,
then they face raising maladjusted, unhappy and unfulfilled kids
at best, and potential suicides at worst.
not about sex, for goodness sake, but about people !!
time has come for commonsense; to put aside dogma and division,
and just to love them, regardless of their
October 5th, Geelong Civil Celebrant John Terry
Moore was himself the subject of ceremony together with his
partner of 25 years, Russell Baum.
ceremony took place at Café Go, in Bellerine Street; Geelong and
was attended by approximately eighty family and friends.
Celebrant Jason Tuazon-McCheyne officiated.
Mr McCheyne said he was honoured to be the officiating
Celebrant on the day, attending with his partner Adrian
and their 2 ½ year old son, Ruben.
He went on
to say that whilst he and Adrian represented the younger
generation of same sex families, “it had been people such as
Russell and John who had held the line, set a good
example to those around them and had paved the way for the
younger generations growing up in our midst.”
is our chance to thank them for their 25 years together, their
contribution to society and to wish them well for the future.
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thoughts for you to consider on RELATIONSHIPS
this the person I want to spend the rest of my life with?
decision to make a lifetime commitment to each other is one of
the biggest decisions a couple will face together.
communication between your partner and yourself is vital for a
healthy and happy relationship.
There are several issues
you need to consider individually and as a couple before making
the decision to make a firm commitment to each other. Most
importantly, what does a commitment mean to you both?
issues to consider and discuss with your partner may include:
are our expectations of this commitment?
will be different once we make a final commitment?
do we each bring to the relationship?
will we live?
will we work out our finances?
we have similar values and beliefs?
we have differences, are we able to work through them together?
can be a fulfilling and exciting experience. Our relationships
are an important part of life, whether they are relationships
with our family, friends or partner. But relationships don’t
just happen – healthy relationships require time and energy
from both partners. Many people aren’t aware that there are
practical skills we can learn to develop and further strengthen
Relationships grow and change over
time, so its important that we have the skills to be able to keep
our relationships happy and healthy.
What makes a healthy
to research one of the most important things in a relationship
willingness to talk through things, to share openly with each
other to have a safe way to share positive and negative feelings
with each other
interest in how your partner is feeling, what they are concerned
about and their dreams for the future
responsibility for your own actions and feelings and encouraging
your partner to do the same
need to be able to have fun in a relationship
each other’s expectations of the relationship – where do
each of you want the relationship to go
and understanding yourself and what you can bring to the
relationship – what can I offer?
does your partner bring to the relationship? Good and not so
that you are not responsible for your partner’s happiness and
that you are responsible for your own happiness
Australian Government 'Information on Relationships'
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